Impress yourself first


In life we begin by trying to impress our parents, then relatives then friends, bosses, peers, and the list goes on and on.  Pretty soon our own concept of what it is to be a good person who we can love gets drowned out by the voices of others impressing upon us how we should be, to garner enough likes, enough followers and basically the approval of others.  We may say that we know what we want to be but how often is that enough for us?  How amazing would it be to just be a person that meets our own expectations of ourselves. As a bonus, this practice actually gives our self esteem an energizing boost!

I once read that how we see ourselves is based upon how we think others think about us.  Why not cut out the middle man and just base this upon how you see yourself without filtering that perception through the eyes of others?  It would be liberating, wouldn’t it?

Try this.  From now on, just focus on impressing yourself based upon YOUR OWN expectations.  Try this for a week.  Word of caution:  you know those instagram posts that you like to browse? watch out, they are a culprit of how you think about yourself too, especially the ones with a gazillion of likes.  For this week of trial of impressing yourself, have a vision of the person you would like to be and make a list of tasks based upon that vision.  This week, have some tasks to complete that fuels this vision, simple tasks that you WILL complete, like reading a few chapters to a child, which may be part of your vision to be a great parent.  

Impress yourself first and you end up being well planted on a path that yields a journey you will love to reflect upon proudly.  Do it!  Impress you first!  As always, mat socho bas karo.  Don’t think, just do!

– Love Yourself Series

 

Can’t seem to have enough time

Intention without execution

Lately it seems that my time runs out, it gets late, but I am not covering those tasks that need to be done.  I remember starting with the list approach and getting stuff done but now it seems that my list has once more become just an intention without execution.   I know that life is short that you start with a goal/objective, spin off the tasks to get there with a deadline and go forward.  However it seems that I am involved in things that devour my time and I am left once again feeling unaccomplished. 

First of, there needs to be honest accountability.  “What we can measure, we can change”, the motto of my employer.  I know this to be true so I need to start reviewing where my time is going.  It is obvious that time is limited and even more so if you squander it.  What is squandering time?  By doing things that are not relevant to your purpose and goals?  Don’t you need down time?  I know this to be important which is why I like to have Sundays as the day without disciplined time slots.  It is a day to use my time carelessly and freely. These days I normally schedule, I can never get a way from scheduling, to do things that I love, like kayaking, golfing, etc.  I should add reading to that mix.  Imagine kayaking to a nice remote safe area, putting up a hammock and reading a book?  This is definitely going to be scheduled for a near Sunday. 

 I believe that answer to this predicament lies in my pattern.  Habits reveal the path you are on towards your future, which is why it is important to review your habits from time to time. 

Remember though that there are tasks that need to be done, household tasks, family tasks, financial budgeting and record keeping tasks, and so on.  Therefore there needs to be a balance.  In the past I have assessed my time by allocating it to segments of my life on a pie chart to see where the time was going.  I need to do this again.

Action plan.  Review current/past pattern and correct.  Ensure that time is spent on the meaningful tasks of your purpose

I am excited to review, revive and refocus!  It is a journey without perfection but with perseverance towards perfection.

The elements of Decision Making

Analysis Paralysis

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No Perfect Decison

Commitment

The Path

 

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No perfect decison

Many outcomes that are beyond expectations did not start with a perfect decision.  It appears that the only perfect decision is the one to begin.  From that decision, evolves a process of more decisions that intuitively lead to a desirable outcome.  One thing one must overcome is the natural tendency to overrate our ability to fail.  

Lesson:  It is a learning process and invariably you cannot make the perfect decision with the current knowledge at that moment.  You must begin to arrive.

 

Commitment

Once the decision is made, the single ingredient needed at this venture is commitment.  This commitment to learn and adapt towards that desirable outcome.  In other words, you must inform yourself that there will be pitfalls and hurdles to overcome and the need to constantly review your progress, in order to adapt your strategy as you gain knowledge from experience and further insight into your goal and yourself.  You must have an unshakable resolve that your destination is achievable, even as it changes. 

Lesson:  Your committment is what will hone and support your decision(s) to the perfect or desirable end.

 

The path

The path to a desirable outcome sought, consists of less than ideal decisions.  However this path is the journey of gathering further data and information to aid in further decisions and improvement of performance.  This newly acquired information would not have been available had you not embarked upon the unfettered path of your virgin decision.  This is what creates further decisions that refines your goals, improve your productivity and clarifies the path.  

Lesson:  Begin with the understanding that the means to the end involves learning and adapting as you go.